#HEREIAM The Revolution of Body Image

July 11, 2016 9 Comments

#HEREIAM The Revolution of Body Image

I recently watched a video (posted below) hosted by JCPenney empowering plus-sized women to feel proud of their bodies, no matter what size they are. As a woman who has spent her whole life struggling with her weight, I felt a gamut of emotions while watching the three minute video: I felt heard, I felt strong, I felt confident, and for once in my life, I felt like I wasn’t alone. For a simple video, it really had a positive effect on my self-image.

Plus-sized women like myself have struggled between two worlds. The world where we are self-confident because we’re smart, we’re funny, we’re educated, we’re strong, we’re ambitious, we’re successful, between the world where we’re less, we’re shamed, we’re hiding, we’re avoiding, we’re ugly, we’re always wishing to look like someone else. Being fat feels like the last physical trait that has not gone through a movement of acceptance, and watching that film made me believe, and made me proud, that I would be alive for this movement.

And then I started reading the YouTube comments. Wow. The hatred of fat people is disguised as “they’re just not healthy.” This is such an invalid fact! I am fat, and I do not have diabetes, my blood pressure/cholesterol/triglycerides are all perfect, but thank you for showing concern by asking for my medical records.  I felt sadness, but then mostly just rage. Why is it so easy for everyone to accept other differences and maladies, but fatness – no, we’re just disgusting.

The problem is the culture we live in. It seems like people are so quick to judge fatness, and in particular, fat women, because they believe we lack self-control, we’re weak. Maybe we are, but maybe we aren’t. I won’t make excuses like slow metabolism or genetics – I like food. I also like making soap, playing with dogs, teaching, writing, and playing volleyball. All of these are parts of who I am. Do you define everyone by just one part? Would it be fair for me to assume someone who went to college, but didn’t pursue two master’s degrees like I did must be weak, they must lack self-control? Of course it wouldn’t be. It would be ridiculous. To assume someone is anything less because they are different is simply ignorant. 

In this world, where division and hatred are seeming to brim over, we must be part of every revolution that empowers good people.  It’s time to start loving ourselves for who we are, right here and right now. It’s time to start seeing people for all of their beautiful parts, because a puzzle isn’t solved until all of the pieces are together.

So, I say #hereiam, to all of the beautiful women in the world, and that is each and every one of youBecause you’re thin, you’re fat; you’re mothers, or you’re not; you’re lawyers, teachers, retail workers, stay-at-home parents, entrepreneurs, law enforcement; you’re marathon runners, you’re marathon couponers; you are everything, and that is beautiful.




9 Responses

Emma Shen
Emma Shen

July 18, 2016

Awesome Ms. Fusaro! The whole movement and message is so relevant and I’m glad that such an important role model as you is leading the way.

Jen Bailey
Jen Bailey

July 12, 2016

To echo another commenter… So much Yes!
What a great read. It brought up so many good points I had never put to so many words.

Rolande
Rolande

July 12, 2016

“To assume someone is anything less because they are different is simply ignorant.” This sums it up for me.

Emily Caswell
Emily Caswell

July 11, 2016

So much yes! Here’s my favorite part of your beautifully-written post: “we must be part of every revolution that empowers good people.” So powerful.

This video is wonderful. I long for the day that our worth can be determined by something other than what we look like. We’re all so much more than that. Thanks so much for sharing this.

Mary Humphrey
Mary Humphrey

July 11, 2016

I love this. Why worry over what other people think about us? You are beautiful, we are all beautiful, and our focus should be to love ourselves and be happy. A focus on being healthy, in mind and body, does not build from being skinny.

Kathy
Kathy

July 11, 2016

Yes, yes, yes! Fat shaming is ugly and needs to stop. You’re so right: this is one form if discrimination that is still acceptable almost everywhere. We need to raise a new generation that doesn’t put down others because of their size.

angela
angela

July 11, 2016

This blog hits a nerve with me. With all the “fake” pictures in the media today, I don’t believe anyone is happy with their body at first. We’re brainwashed into believing we need to look like the woman on the cover of Cosmo. Thing is, the woman on the cover doesn’t even look like that in real life. She is heavily made up and photo-shopped.

I love the movement with real women posting a picture of themselves on social media in their bathing suit. Young women need to see what real women look like.

Donna DeRosa
Donna DeRosa

July 11, 2016

You’re beautiful. Who decides what is “over” weight anyway.

Claire T Weinberg
Claire T Weinberg

July 11, 2016

I went to a super hard exercise class today and felt fat. Of course, I was there because I have put on some weight and I was thankful that I have enough confidence and background to go slow and do what worked for me. But getting to that point has taken years and I still struggle.

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